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| | Think about this situation. Going to roast chicken at KFC. Walk into the center, you set up in line and waiting for the submission of the contract. Your eyes attracted an extremely attractive girl who supports your queue. When the train comes to your custom smile she greets you politely, and asks what you want. She places her order and waiting until you give your products. After 15 minutes've decided that you need to make an appointment with her for a date at the right time, when at the box office has no movement, go up and Appointments with her the next evening. Think you that four months have passed your first chance meeting at KFC. You are perfectly harmonious pair, you feel with each other wonderfully and perfectly understand. I mention this example to show you the process of entering the world of another human being. The first time when you met at the KFC there among you a huge psychological barrier. Not znaliście each other out and everyone had their "psychological walls". Odnosiliście to each of the reserve, and nothing about himself does not know, because you shared ignorance barrier. When people do not know, they do not allow others to enter its market. In other words, the world does not show the true self in fear of being injured. In ordinary language this is called the "distance". But what happens is that sometimes after several meetings, these barriers are disappearing, and allow people to create an intimate relationship? Or, if you understand this process, you will be able to produce it every time you want? Will you be able to accelerate this process several times? This is what you learn in this chapter to understand how knowledge unfolds between two people, as they open their "psychological gates and let others know the real you. Do you think that will allow you to speed up the process when you are dating with your girlfriend? | | |